Let's not pretend.
You've built a life that works.
Bills paid. People think you're solid.
From the outside, nothing's wrong.
But something is.
That relationship — if there is one — hasn't grown in years.
That career looks great on LinkedIn. Feels like slow internal constipation you've learned to live with.
And that “best version of you”? Maintained. Managed.
Lightly sedated by distraction, porn, wine, work, validation — pick your flavor.
This isn't confusion. It's avoidance.
You're afraid to renegotiate your life — with yourself. Because that means admitting you've outgrown something. So you postpone. Not because you don't see it. Because it's more comfortable to complain about it than decide.
So there you sit. Telling yourself you're fine. Lowering the bar because at least it's something. Staying busy so you don't have to choose.
What a drag. And not even the fun kind.
This isn't about fixing you.
You're not broken.
It's about deciding you're done tolerating.
Done negotiating.
Done managing a life that needs resuscitation.
that decision changes everything.
or nothing at all!
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40+ Gay Men. Gay Talk.
We say the quite parts out loud!
Each week, host Rick Clemons, dives in with raw, real talk about gay men's man junk.
Dating. Sex. Relationships — When chemistry isn't the problem…you are.
Aging. — When abs and ass stop doing the heavy lifting.
Money. Work. Success. — Still not feeling like the man you thought you'd become.
Grief you buried. Shame you joke about. Addictions you minimize.
Reinventions you never start.
And the ways you keep jerking yourself off instead of stepping up.
It’s — No fluff. No therapy. No pretending.
Real conversations for gay men who are done negotiating, and ready to see what they can't unsee.
Conversations
We move the podcast into real conversation.
Gay guy, to gay guy. Going deeper about the stuff we need to be talking about. Online and in person.
Relationships. Careers. Confidence. Aging. Purpose. Sex.
We venture where every gay man should, but doesn't!
Monthly Gay Men's Chat's hold nothing back, but we're respectful, inclusive, and a safe place to be seen and heard!
The Reckoning
Mens Group Coaching - Coming Soon
A cohort-based program for men who are done negotiating, pretending, and settling.
Not therapy. Not venting. Not hand-holding.
Momentum over processing. Clarity over noise. Action over endless insight.
The focus: Career. Relationships — dating them and keeping them. Finances. Sex and intimacy. Aging and health. Confidence and self-worth. Every cohort writes its own story.
You cross the line. You make the decision. You move.
Coaching
From coming out to creating and living your best gay life, when something's off, we expose it and stop negotiating.
- Bored in your relationship? Own it.
- Sex feels mechanical? Stop pretending.
- Work drains you? Call it what it is.
- Tired of closet dwelling? Step into your truth.
No more hiding, fears, excuses, or apologies. Live like you mean it!
→ This is for the guy who's ready for clarity without bullshit, decisions that stick, and a life that fits now.
No therapy, motivational fluff, or talk in circles.
Make your move. Or keep explaining why you haven't.
Speaking
Chris Guillebeau
Author of The Art of Non-Conformity
ChrisGuillebeau.com
Rick is the real deal. If I were trapped in the closet, he's the first one I'd call. Wait, is there phone reception in the closet? In any case, it's rare to meet someone so genuine yet also so wise (don't tell him I said that part).
Tamsen Webster
TEDxCambridge
Rick puts his heart and soul into his work -- it comes through in everything he does. If you're looking to make bold moves, he's the perfect guide and mentor.
Mark Asquith
CEO & Co-Founder, Captivate.FM
MarkAsquith.com
With an empathetic ear and firm stance, Rick is one of the few people I know who can simultaneously inspire & deliver, doing so with startlingly accurate insight and unrelenting results.